Please You!

If you’re a people pleaser, you spend a huge amount of energy trying to make others happy. You invest a lot of time in the details, and you go out of your way to make sure everyone is taken care of, often at the expense of yourself.

You’re thoughtful, you get joy out of seeing others happy and you’re also probably pretty sensitive. When your well made plans don’t work out, you’re discouraged. When people aren’t happy, you fixate and worry. You try not to let other people’s comments and opinions get to you, but it’s hard.

People pleasing is an exhausting and reinforcing pattern. It’s a trap. It feels great when we succeed, but it leaves us dependent on other people for our worth and happiness.

Thankfully, like any habit or pattern, you can change it. With intention and effort, you can transform your people pleasing ways. In addition to the quotation above, this month’s mantra is, “I can’t please everybody...and that’s ok."